The original title of Motivate Your Son was Raising Intensity. I thought it was a clever play on words. Parents raising their sons needed to raise the motivational intensity of their sons. My more marketing savvy friend explained that no one would find the book. I'm sure he's right. I am an educator. He's a marketer. Nonetheless, the issue remains: parents need to raise the motivational intensity of their teen sons.
I provide full treatment for how to do so in the book. But, I can quickly sum up:
(1) understand the core motivational triggers for your son
(2) learn how to communicate in a way that effectively presses those triggers
(3) put in place structures that are naturally intensifying.
Number one and two cannot be succinctly described. Both require coaching.
But, number 3, putting in structures that are naturally intensifying can be done by any parent.
Here's one: take out a stop watch. Give your son 20 minutes to get his busy work done. (of course, you should check it).
The surprising result is not that he'll get the work done but rather that he'll enjoy the work more.
Why? Because his motivational intensity has been raised.
I provide full treatment for how to do so in the book. But, I can quickly sum up:
(1) understand the core motivational triggers for your son
(2) learn how to communicate in a way that effectively presses those triggers
(3) put in place structures that are naturally intensifying.
Number one and two cannot be succinctly described. Both require coaching.
But, number 3, putting in structures that are naturally intensifying can be done by any parent.
Here's one: take out a stop watch. Give your son 20 minutes to get his busy work done. (of course, you should check it).
The surprising result is not that he'll get the work done but rather that he'll enjoy the work more.
Why? Because his motivational intensity has been raised.